Thursday, October 21, 2010

THANK YOU AMMA:-)

Anger!

Yes, the most dreadful enemy you can ever have is your own anger. Its true that you can use the same anger in a positive way but, when it has all the ingredients to spoil you 99 times and help you only once, its an obvious indication that we shed it off, right?!

Set aside the situations wherein our friends, relatives or any other stranger comes under the wrath of our anger. Many a times, probably innumerable times, the one person who is constantly under the wrath of our anger will be our own MOTHER!! Don't agree with me? Then just answer among yourself if you have ever done this to your mom;

" Where's my favourite T-shirt in the cupboard, did you displace it?" "Am not finding my book, did you take it?" "Oh gosh, the same old idlis/dosas/rice, don't you cook anything else?" "Why isn't my clothes ironed, I need them right now?" "I need to watch the English Premiere League, set aside your serial for one day". Atleast I will be honest to myself and say that 'yes', I have treated my mom sometimes as if she is meant to take care of me only and didn' care for her emotions. I know that we all love our mom more than anything in this world, eventhen why do we often keep doing this to our mom?

I know its neither mother's day nor woman's day to bring up this topic, but my plight now made me share it. Recently I had to be alone at home as mom-dad had to go to our village back for some work and so had to manage my duties at the hospital and also look after my tummy 3 times a day. So my mom's concern was as to what will I do with my food arrangements. Before leaving she told some hundered times to take care of it and I was like, 'Mom, am married now. Stop treating me like a kid.' I was confident that I know to cook a few dishes, courtesy again my mom, and I can just pass off these 7 days of self cooking and show to my mom that 'What a big deal!'

Well, for the first two days I did justify myself and cooked something edible and even told my mom that ' Whats there in cooking, see am working and cooking both at the same time. Don't worry.' The third day was my real test, my initial enthusiam was dipping and in the midway of my cookery show, the gas supply ended and had to change it. So due to unexpected interference to my work, my whole process went haywire and my dish was edible just becasue I had nothing else left either to eat or to cook afreash. I was so angry on myself for failing. Come'on! On whom am I angry and why? It took a while to realise that many a times when a lil bit of something was missing in the dishes cooked by mom, I used to tell her" Mom, you are getting old and losing your skills". Pity on me!! My mother has been doing this work of cooking and looking after the family without any complaints for the past 40 odd years and me fed up for just 3 days??? Thats it!?

Its not only my story, many of us behave the same. The present tech-savy generation speaks so politely to some unknown creature on the other side of a phone or ask sorry when we accidentally brush our legs to someone in public or even help pur friends with many stuffs. But how many times have we thanked our mothers for cooking our dishes, washing our clothes and even taking care of us? I don't know why do we have that ego to thank our very own cause of existence. No mother expects her child to appreciate her, thats because she never does these works to impress us. She knows that her child needs her. Its our conscience which has to wake up and realise that she too feels heavens in her arms if her child showers love on her. Though it sounds new to literally thank our mother with words, it has a simple way to do it too. No need to express that openly if you can't, but as pointed out earlier, lets cut down our unwanted anger on our mothers. Do not take her for granted and thats the biggest thanking we can give.Lets wake up, better late than never, and let us take this opportunity to thank our mothers for "BEING OUR MOTHER".

SORRY MOM IF I HAVE HURT YOU EVER AND GIVE ME ANOTHER CHANCE TO BE YOUR OFFSHOOT:-)

7 comments:

  1. Good article! I would like to suggest something. Go and complete with your mother and father and other family members. There may be little incompleted feelings, which will be hidden deep inside the memory. For Ex you might have liked square, plastic lunch box to carry food in school days but your mother might have selected a round, steel lunch box for you, or your father might have bought you a normal pant when you wanted a jeans pant. I am just mentioning the simple ones here. These kind of feelings may be there in the memory, just start looking into yourself. List them down, go and share with your parents, individually, that you got hurt in that incident and you had little 'incomplete' feeling left as a result of it, accept your mistakes, ask her/him to forgive you, tell them you love her/him. You will realise that your father/mother would have forgiven a lot of your mistakes long ago. Be authentic, you will love this experience though you may feel little embarassed. In case if you do not have any incomplete feeling with your family, then just go and tell them that you love them. Usually, under normal circumstances, if you come up with nothing, then it can only mean that you have not looked enough into yourself!

    Every human being likes appreciation, dont you like it? Recognition, appreciation, thank you/sorry are very much required and when you use them in daily life, they will create wonders altogether! We take our parents for granted. We dont we realise that our parents never made any promises when they brought us to this Earth. For Ex Did your Mom promised you that she will cook all delicious recipies from the world to you through out the life, when you were born? Ofcourse not! Nobody did! Our parents would have left us minute after the birth, after all they also have their own life. They would have lead their own life like they wanted. Still they have given us everything they can apart from living their own life (anything including love, care, time, money etc etc). Dont you think we owe them a Thank You? Even then why do we expect so much from them? We tend to feel sad that Dad did not bought me something or etc etc.... So, Go and complete with your family!


    -Niharika

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  2. Hey Niharika,
    Thanks for taking some time out to read and even improve my thoughts. Truly agree with you in the context that we in today's world are lacking that COMPLETENESS with our family. Its definitely a worthwhile thing to express urself with ur family.That caption of "complete with your family" is for sure a thought provoking one. I would love to get your comments henceforth and criticisms mainly for my articles if u can hcurn out some time. I definitely feel u have a blog page and I would like to read it. So kindly forward the link.
    Thanks and regards.............Rakesh

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  3. Thanks for valuing my comment. I do not have any blog page to share the link with you. I would love to write my thoughts on your posts this way!

    At ebb tide I wrote a line upon the sand, and gave it all my heart and all my soul. At flood tide I returned to read what I had inscribed and found my ignorance upon the shore.
    --Kahlil Gibran


    - Niharika

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  4. Hii again,
    Nice saying, may be describing your nature? Il not judge you unless I can know you:-)
    Nice to see your comments though...
    keep criticising:-)
    Rakesh

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  5. Hi Rakesh,

    Honestly the concept of 'Completing with Family' is not mine. I learnt it (along with lot other things) when I attended a seminar series called Landmark Forum (http://www.landmarkeducation.com/) in Bangalore in the year 2007, which has really improved my thoughts and hence my way of life. I did not tell in the first place as I felt it may sound like I am promoting. It was good experience really, though I just did the basic course and did not register for anything else. And yes, I am of your age too, I used to work in an IT company and still attended all the seminar series. It was great, that was like a whole different world! So I am sure you can make some time and attend the basic course.
    One last thing -you know, just try to pick the good things in others (including enemy!), if you like those qualities, appreciate it, if you like them more then adapt it to your life. Otherwise you can just leave it. But dont deny the person completely! Better give him a chance once before throwing up on him.

    Sorry, if I sounded like burdening with information/advice here. You can choose not to consider this, I will not stop commenting on your posts, anyway!

    - Niharika

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  6. Hi again,
    Well I did hear that IT ppl are more into NGO stuffs and things like that and nice to know that I found one of such a fren who has some different hobby of hers. Its not surely promotional to say what you like. So don't worry about that and as far as me giving a try, I can't say Il even promptly try coz my schedule of work makes me sunken in here to hatch out some time for stuff like that. But Il consider that as I have a long life ahead:-)
    And I feel you have thoughts in you which can surely help others improve or at least have a smile on their face. So why don't you start scribbling? Tht's my sincere advice you may consider:-)
    Rakesh

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  7. Hi Rakesh,

    Thank you for considering my advice. Landmark is not NGO, it is more like personal development with practical approach making no references to any religions/beliefs/community. Hope you find some time to get to know about it.

    Thanks for your suggestion about writing, It is a great art, isn’t it? I will start writing definitely in future. I cannot exactly give you the time limit for this as I do not have anything set in my mind now. Take my word for this, if I say I will do then I will do it. I read somewhere - Write to be understood, speak to be heard, read to grow.........

    - Niharika

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